"If your knowledge of fire has been turned to certainty by words alone, then seek to be cooked by the fire itself. Don’t abide in borrowed certainty. There is no real certainty until you burn; if you wish for this, sit down in the fire."

~ Mevlana Rumi, 13th century sufi poet and mystic from Rumi Daylight: A Daybook of Spiritual Guidance

"Borrowed certainty"--whether it's from our family or friends or church or country--is never a very good place to dwell...

We must discover our own truth.

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I'll save a seat for you in the fire.

[ Good news (or bad news, depending on your perspective): there's plenty of room for you and your friends! :) ]