"You were not born to be a second-hander." Howard Roark to Gail Wynand in "The Fountainhead" 

~ Ayn Rand, 20th century philosopher from The Fountainhead

Ah, the second-hander...

For those who have not read "The Fountainhead," the second-hander is the one who lives for others, always striving to impress others and to "do the right thing" while selling his soul in the process.

Are you living like a second-hander—too easily acquiescing to the demands of others/society/family?

…

I say to you, "You were not born to be a second-hander."